Posh Mom, Alternadad, and the Reign of the Cool Parent

I was looking for an online parenting chat forum, and I had trouble finding one where I could fit in. There are so many different parenting trends, it's kind of hard to fid something I like. A review of the major sites:

Posh Mom is the mind set of being supermom in jimmy choos. These are the women who hand out cute business cards for play dates. Hey, if they have the money to spend on manicures and lattes, more power to them. Certainly not the group for me, though.

Next on the list (and this one looks promising), Grupsters. Well, there are a lot of names for this mind-set. The main philosophy is that life as we know it, does not end with the advent of "the tinyness", and that by unilaterally swearing off the doodlebops and the wiggles, we can retain the essence of who we are. This is more of a spectrum mindset. There are people like Alternadad, who is editor of the website "Offsprung: For parents who don't suck" (now there's a motto to live by!) who believe that they should not pander to the "kid" lifestyle and continue to live their life as they want. It's a bit extreme for me, although I do love the chat forums on Offsprung. Very funny. The article in the New Yorker by Adam Sternbergh explains this phenomenon.
Interesting ideas, and I'll be thinking about this for a while and maybe I'll get back to it in a later post.

Then there's Urban Baby which seems like a cross between the two. I don't know which community will fit my ideas and lifestyle yet. I'll lurk for a while on the latter two and see if there is anything interesting. If anyone belongs to any online groups, I'd love to hear about them.